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Monday, December 19, 2011

JESUS CHRIST, SAVIOR AND REDEEMER

(My Sacrament meeting talk on  12/18)

When I was about 6 or 7 my very busy mother decided it would be fun to teach Christmas carols to her children and all the neighbor kids so that we could then go caroling to the rest of the neighborhood. We met for several weeks in our small livingroom while my mom taught us as many songs as we could learn. At the end we made caramel popcorn balls, wrapped in red and green cellophane, to hand out, so at least if the neighbors didn’t like our voices, they might like our goodies. Sometimes when I want to remember bygone days feeling the Christmas spirit I think back to those few Decembers as it became a tradition for a while. It was so fun to walk around several blocks singing with our friends who also were in kindergarten thru 6th grade.  There were at least 10 or 15 of us. I learned to love Christmas carols from that experience. I’ve loved caroling anytime I get an opportunity, whether it be on a boat on Lake Merritt in the Oakland Bay Area, for a Mutual activity, on the hills of Bethlehem, and especially in my car with my grandchildren.

The night before I was asked to speak in Sacrament meeting the words and melody to the Christmas choir song “O Come Let Us Adore Him” were trapped in my mind. I went to sleep hearing it, spent half the night hearing it, and woke up hearing it. Now, being asked to speak, I’ve decided to use the words from “O Come All Ye Faithful” for my inspiration.

“O Come, all ye faithful, joyful and triumphant, O come ye, O come ye to Bethlehem. Come and behold Him, born the king of angels. O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, Christ the Lord.”

O, Come…What a welcoming phrase. A warm invitation. To step forward, embrace, remember, celebrate all those that are filled with faith. I like being invited to things. I liked being invited to sing to our neighbors. It makes me feel special at the same time feeling part of something larger. But what does it mean to be faithful or full of faith?  Are we full of faith in our Savior Jesus Christ and if so, why, what do we have faith in? 

The subject of faith is beyond exhaustive. We know that faith is a belief in things hoped for but not seen.   In Alma 32:21 we read,  “Faith is not to have a perfect knowledge of things; therefore if ye have faith ye hope for things which are not seen, which are true”.

I have not yet seen Jesus Christ in my mortal life, but I have faith that He lives and loves me, that He was born at the meridian of time and walked on this earth doing good, performing miracles and going about our Heavenly Father’s business. I have felt his spirit and influence in my life many times. I have had dreams of Him. I have turned to him as my great and perfect exemplar. When I fall on my knees or hide in my closet in despair or plead for his arms to be wrapped around me, His peace and comfort envelops me as He comes to me.  I have hope for a brighter future. I feel faith-full and I know that when I repent and am forgiven I am worthy to come to Him. I feel joy and I seek His spirit in his holy temple and in the faces of the ordinance workers. I seek for and behold his face in the lost and downtrodden, the beggars and the homeless, knowing that they are not alone, that He loves all of us. I seek for and behold His face in my friends and family, in nature, and in the faces and voices of the members of the Mormon Tabernacle choir as they sing praises to Him. I behold His face in our Prophet Thomas S. Monson, in our apostles, and in our local stake and ward leaders, especially our Bishop, as they minister to us so kindly and lovingly.

I was reading online about Jenny Oaks Baker, the Grammy-nominated violinist daughter of Apostle Dallin H. Oaks. In her biography she mentions how she met her husband at a singles ward on the east coast. She was handing out programs at the door; he walked in. She climbed over several people to sit by him. He started trying to impress her by telling her his father had been a bishop, stake president, and now mission president. She then, which she swears she never ever does, responded with “Well my father’s an apostle!” What was he to say after that? I guess the yin and yang of courtship began. Game on.

As I thought about this anecdote I wondered why he didn’t come back with, “Well, my elder brother is Jesus Christ.” Then she could have said, “Mine, too” and they would have been even more united with all things in common.  As we are. Knowing that Jesus Christ, our elder brother, who descended below all things so He could overcome all things, even death, the great and supernal sacrifice, so that all of us could overcome death, I feel triumphant!

Doctrine & Covenants 88:6-14 is so beautiful. It reads:
  
“He that ascended up on high, as also he descended below all things, in that he comprehendeth all things, that he might be in all and through all things, the light of truth; Which truth shineth. This is the light of Christ. As also he is in the sun, and the light of the sun, and the power thereof by which it was made. As also he is in the moon, and is the light of the moon, and the power thereof by which it was made;
 As also the light of the stars, and the power thereof by which they were made; And the earth also, and the power thereof, even the earth upon which you stand. And the light which shineth, which giveth you light, is through him who enlighteneth your eyes, which is the same light that quickeneth your understandings; Which light proceedeth forth from the presence of God to fill the immensity of space—The light which is in all things, which giveth life to all things, which is the law by which all things are governed, even the power of God who sitteth upon his throne, who is in the bosom of eternity, who is in the midst of all things. Now, verily I say unto you, that through the redemption which is made for you is brought to pass the resurrection from the dead.”
I journeyed to Israel in December, 1999.  It was an interesting time to be in the Holy Land when Hanukah, Ramadan, Christmas, and the new millennium intersected.  I travelled with a small tour group of 15. Because of the political unrest and rioting in Bethlehem we were un-able to enter the city safely. However, on one temperate evening as the sun was falling we gathered on the hills above Bethlehem to read scriptures and sing Christmas hymns.  Several Bedouin women and their small children gathered around as it had become their custom to join in the music and perhaps look for a little handout. It was a magical and sacred experience made even more special by our guide, Daniel Rona, who pointed out one of the women gathered nearby as he told us the following story.  For several years the woman, accompanied by her little boy who was 5 or 6 years old, had been coming to this gathering as Dan Rona brought a group of believers to her hillside. And then suddenly she stopped coming. Brother Rona learned from some of the other women that her little boy had died and she was too heartbroken to return.  Filled with sorrow for this poor woman, who had no modern technology like a photograph from which to remember her son, Brother Rona began emailing past tour groups to see if anyone had taken a picture of this mother and child. For many months, he heard nothing. And then one day a photograph arrived in the mail of the child; one of the people had been going through his slides and found a picture of him.  The next time Dan Rona took a group to the Bethlehem hills, amazingly the woman had returned with the group. She stood back and was shy. Brother Rona walked up to her and handed her a photograph of her little boy. She looked in shock and amazement and then knelt down, weeping tears of joy and gratitude.  A simple gift really but worth everything to a grieving mother, to see her son’s face again. 
I think this is how we will feel when we again see our loved ones, knowing that they live on because Heavenly Father sacrificed His only begotten son for our sakes, to be resurrected and receive the opportunity for Eternal life.
Sing choirs of angels, sing in exultation; sing all ye citizens of heav’n above! Glory to God, Glory in the highest.  O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, Christ the Lord.

We know heavenly choirs sang in exultation to the shepherds gathering on the Bethlehem hills over 2000 years ago, singling Glory to God. A year ago this week, my friend’s 43 year old daughter, Krista, passed away from a brain tumor.  Krista was in every way an exceptional daughter, wife, mother, and fellow-citizen of Christ. She was also blessed with a beautiful alto singing voice and was recorded in a studio singing some of her favorite songs.  At the conclusion of her funeral, immediately after the closing prayer in a completely filled stake center in Plano TX, we in the audience heard Krista’s beautiful voice singing a capella “O My Father,” ringing  out from the sound system.  Her husband had arranged for her amazing recording to be played as a final soul-stirring gift to us, her friends and loved ones. The hushed room sat in silent tribute joining our personal testimonies to the words: “O my Father, thou that dwellest in the high and glorious place, when shall I regain thy presence and again behold thy face?...When I leave this frail existence, when I lay this mortal by, Father, Mother, may I meet you in your royal courts on high? Then at length, when I’ve completed all you sent me forth to do, with your mutual approbation let me come and dwell with you.”  All of this because of the loving tender sacrifice of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.  Several of Kristas’ former choir members heard Krista’s actual voice singing along with the recorded number. One in a choir of angels, singing in exultation.
This past Friday morning I received word that little 6-year old Spencer Felt, the grandson of another friend of mine, was finally receiving a heart transplant. For 3 months all who know and love this family have been hoping and praying for Spencer to be well enough to receive a new heart when one became available for him. Friday was the day. I was overcome with emotion as I received the text, being fully aware that somewhere some other group of citizens was mourning the loss of a child. I sent a prayer of gratitude to our Heavenly Father, not only for Spencer’s new heart, but for the sacrifice of one other so that Spencer could proceed forward with his destiny.  And I sent a prayer of gratitude that our Savior and Eldest brother, Jesus Christ, Our Redeemer, so willingly laid down his life so we could live again.
I don’t know how Jesus did all of this. In the midst of my own personal great torment recently I wondered allowed to Heavenly Father, “How?” How was Jesus able to achieve such perfection when he was tormented and buffeted by Satan, experiencing EVERY temptation and sorrow so that he could succor us?  What incomparable behavior and attributes did he develop such that he could be the Savior of the World and worlds without end?
And the answer I received was he submitted his will to the father. Not to the world, not to Satan, not to the voices of peer pressure around him, but solely to the Father. For me, then, that is the key. In learning to submit our will we take his yoke upon us, and learn of Him. By being yoked to Him, we can best learn of his perfected qualities, though only in our comparatively small ways.
Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, “If we are meek, through our smaller but similar experiences we will come to appreciate Jesus’ perfected qualities even more. Then our adoration of him produces a desire for emulation of him”. 
Elder Maxwell then quoted Joseph Smith by saying, “The Prophet Joseph Smith, whose own life was lived in a crescendo of self-improvement amid adversity, observed; The nearer man approaches perfection, the clearer are his views, and the greater his enjoyments, ‘til he has overcome the evils of his life and lost every desire for sin; and like the ancients, (he) arrives at that point of faith where he is wrapped in the power and glory of his maker and is caught up to dwell with Him.”  (Teachings p. 51) 
The clearer one’s views, the more one sees “things as they really are,” the greater the happiness.
Yea, Lord, we greet thee, Born this happy morning; Jesus, to thee be all glory giv’n. Son of the Father, Now in flesh appearing; O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, O Come Let Us Adore Him, Christ the Lord.


MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Purple Oaks and Birchen Boughs

The sweet calm sunshine of October, now
 warms the low spot;
Upon its grassy mold the purple oak-leaf falls;
The birchen bough drops its bright spoil like arrow-heads of gold.
-William Cullen

I love how this poem perfectly captures the month of October.  I love even more than reading it, speaking this poem out loud. Try it. See how it feels in your mouth. Hear how it resonates in your ears.  Doesn’t it sound lush and bountiful? Like a bushel of golden apples? Ah, October! How do you leave us so quickly?

A few events in the life of the mercy finder this month:





Blessing Day for twins, Brooks and Tyler
Bathtime for cousins
Friend, Merrilyn Collin, gave Sawyer a bear named "Sawyer" from Habitat for Humanity 
Juliette practicing for Zoomar Farm 














The Farm and Pumpkin Patch with Brittany & kiddos, Chelsea & Sawyer... train rides, slides and guinea pigs


Disneyland with Britt, Annie, Jake, & Juliette, wherein Jake learns to be a Jedi
I love you October. Please come again soon.



Wednesday, October 5, 2011

The Doctor Is In

It's 2 in the morning and I can't sleep. Instead I'm giggling over a conversation I had with my dad a few hours ago. I'm also listening to my dad cough and snore and my mom talking in her sleep, all of this coming through my bedside baby monitor. Uh oh, now he's up going to the bathroom. I've got to turn down the volume. There are just some things I don't want to listen to. Back to the earlier conversation.

About 11 o'clock, Dad called me downstairs:

"Joyce, I can't sleep. I need an Ambien."

"Dad, you only have one left. You've been taking them every night for the past week. Are you sure you want to use your last one tonight?" I paused looking over at mom, snoring away, mouth wide open, cheekbones prominent.

"Sure," he replied. "I'll just get some more."

"But Dad, Dr. Jungwirth doesn't want you to take it. That's why he only prescribed 10 pills. At first he wasn't going to give you any."

"That's all right. I'll just go get them from Dr. Urge."

"Dr. Urge? You don't know a doctor Urge."

"Sure I do. He's the one who gave me my antibiotics," Dad explained. "Come with me and I'll show you tomorrow. He's down at the corner."

"Dad," I said, "that was Dr. Wilson at Urgent Care."

"I didn't go to Urgent Care. I went to Dr. Urge!" Dad now insisted.

"No Dad, Dr. Jungwirth is your doctor but he couldn't see you for the pneumonia so I took you to Urgent Care. Not the ER, Urgent Care. And Dr. Wilson prescribed the antibiotics."

Dad paused. "I want to see Dr. Urge. I know he'll give them to me."

I walked into the kitchen and got dad the last Ambien.

I know I live in an asylum. A year ago my visiting brother, John, told Mom he was the doctor when she insisted at 3AM that she needed to tell a doctor about all the terrible things going on around her. At first she called for the police. When John's imitation of a police officer didn't satisfy her she asked for the doctor.

John walked into her room and said, "Hello Olea. I'm the doctor."

"You're the doctor? What's your name?" she asked.

"Dr. Strangelove," he responded without missing a beat.




I think I'll take myself, and my ankles that sound like castanets when I walk, into the bathroom to find the Tums. And maybe the Aleve. And while I'm at it, watch an Alfred Hitchcock movie on my laptop. That sounds like a better solution than Ambien.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Achieving Inner Peace (thanks, Holly)

If  you can start the day without caffeine,

If  you  can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,

If  you can resist complaining and  boring people with your  troubles,

If  you can eat the same food every  day  and be grateful for  it,

If  you can understand when your loved  ones are too busy to give  you any time,

If  you can take criticism and  blame without resentment,

If  you can conquer tension  without  medical help,

If  you can relax without alcohol,  

If   you can sleep without the aid of  drugs,
  
 
  
...Then   You Are  Probably  ..........  
 
 
 
 
 
  
The   Family Dog!
 
  


 
                            

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun--A Grandma's Perspective

One week ago today, August 24th, two little boys came into this world. Brooks Nolan and Tyler Douglas Archibald. What a happy event that was. The plan was for Brittany to be induced that morning. She was at 38 weeks and one day, and on September 9th the Archibald family leaves for their new home and job in California.  The day passed slowly while I held down the fort w/ the older 3 kids at Chuck E. Cheese in West St. Paul. The plan also involved me running over to the hospital when she was close to delivery so that I could be there to experience what in my opinion is one of life's most spiritual moments--the entering into mortality of your grandchild, and in case this, two grandchildren.  Unfortunately, the nurses weren't checking Brittany too frequently and she was beyond transition and ready to push when they checked her again. A quick phone call to me from Jordan was helpful, but still I was stuck in traffic as there was some big event going on very near the hospital while I was threading my way through traffic.  I missed it by about 10 minutes. Rats! (speaking of Chuck).

This is what went on in the delivery room before I got there, captured by a nurse:


I guess they weren't happy until they saw each other again (Brooks has the pink ribbon on the hat and Tyler has the yellow ribbon--they're comfortable with their masculinity.)


The proud parents with their newest additions to the family, Jordan moderately dazed and confused.


As I went sliding around the corner past the nurses station trying to find them and was told they would be coming out of the delivery/OR soon and to wait in their room, I kept stepping outside the door to see if they were coming down the hallway. About 10 minutes later I saw Brittany being pushed on a gurney and Jordan close behind wheeling the babies, no longer looking shell-shocked. Both were absolutely ecstatic!



I couldn't wait to get my arms wrapped around these little tykes. But it's weird because first you look at one baby and then you look at the other, then you look back at the first, then you look back at the other....It's hard to comprehend that their momma just had two babies (to paraphrase Jake's earlier Youtube announcement).


I couldn't stay forever. Jordan and Britt's sister-in-law, Courtney, who lives right down the street from them had rushed over to relieve me from watching the older kids as I flew out the door for the hospital and by 11 o'clock I'm sure she was ready to get back to her family.  The next morning, after getting the kids going and making sure the house was immaculate in case we had any showings, Annie, Jake, Juliette and I headed back to St. Paul and the hospital. The kids couldn't wait to meet their new brothers. And I couldn't wait to snuggle up with them again. Courtney also visited. She has twin girls that are 13 months old so she was very comfortable with this "twin" thing.


Annie, delighted oldest sister


  Jake, thrilled oldest brother


         Nannie Joy, convinced you can never get enough of a good thing so why not have two?


You can see by now we started getting smart. Courtney suggested putting their initial on their hats to make it easier to tell them apart. Above I'm holding Tyler. Here I'm holding Brooks.


    First family photo along with the flowers the kids brought for their mom.

                                                                       
Aunt Courtney


     These guys are so far very easy babies.

By the third day, all were ready to go home. Apparently, the entire labor and delivery hospital staff was still talking about what a superstar Brittany was in the delivery room. They said they'd never seen anything like it in all their collective experience. She was calm, peaceful, radiant, and, I guess, born to be a mom. Jordan didn't pass out cigars, but he was a shining example of a tremendous husband and father.




Our little Juliette is only 21 months old. She was so excited to have someone younger than her to play with. But she wasn't quite sure at first who was better, "bobbi" or "baby".

 

She figured it out with the help of her mom.


   So here they are at 3 days old. Brooks is in the blue and sleeping. Tyler is in the print and wide awake.




And here we have them again. Home and settling in. One big happy family.  As a mom I count my blessings with each of my children and count them again and again and again with my grandchildren. How fortunate I am to be able to watch my posterity grow and be able to hug and kiss and love each one of these precious children. And I'm even more fortunate to know that this little, whoops, I mean big family will soon be living just a few miles away from me so that when I get on the plane on Saturday I won't really be saying goodbye but "see ya in a few days!"

PS and speaking of a few days, it's taken me a few days just to write this...I can see things are changing already. And speaking of changing already, we can tell them apart. It just took a little bit of time and observation. But BOY oh BOY, aren't they precious?!